Okay, maybe depress is a bit strong. Romantic comedies make me all thoughtful and reflective. I swear, I’m not joking. I end up walking from the theater considering what I don’t have in my life. Not in a ‘pity me’ way, but in a glass half empty/half full fashion.
I laughed like a loon when I saw Bridesmaids. Put aside the food poisoning scene and the over the top stuff in the airplane and it was a touchingly sweet story, about the main character’s life crisis while her BFF is planning her wedding, with an added little love affair. And for me it was about the role friendship plays in everyday life. Especially a woman’s life.
I snorted and chuckled and thoroughly enjoyed myself. And I also walked from the theater and immediately sent a text to my friend, Terri, telling her how thankful I was for her friendship.
Yup, romcom makes me meditative. Even wistful.
Something about laughing and wanting to cry at the same time. The best romcoms are as good as they are because they are based on real life possibilities, the more absurd makes better comedy, the more real makes better romance.
And sometimes, the best of them are based on the tragedies.
I recently saw Crazy Stupid Love and man, that one really through me for a loop. Yes, it was delightful. Steve Carrel made me believe. And I sat there, watching this couple who had met in high school, struggle with holding together a marriage through the danger of routine, I found my throat dry. Why?
I married my high school sweetheart. I’ve been married 30+ years and the issues addressed in this movie are very real and seldom funny.
Routine is the death of marriage and getting married very young puts a burden on keeping interest alive for a longer and longer period. I’m not sure anyone should be married at a very early age.
This is one of the reasons why I campaign no stridently for the after the HEA scenario and why I write a great many Late Escape stories. As sweet as Crazy Stupid Love was and how wonderful the idea of finding you soul mate at 15 (or 13) — I think it’s wasted on the young. There is still so much ahead after the vows and if you don’t keep the adventure, passion and courtship alive then you know what happens?
You get a David Lindhagen. (For those who haven’t seen the movie, he’s the guy the long married wife has a one night stand with, setting off her midlife crisis, which in turn sets Steve Carrel off on his ourney to rediscover his manhood.
Really, it’s a fun and sweet movie. It’s also a cautionary tale, to be truthful.
I left the theater and thought to myself. “I have to get my husband to see this movie.”
And it wasn’t for the laughs.
This summer had a lot of RomCom movies. Any you see that you enjoyed? How do they make you feel?